I thought you were ignoring me...oops

Hi Friend,
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Have you ever been in a conversation that felt completely one-sided?

You share a juicy work story, your hot take on pineapple pizza, or explain a hilarious reel you can’t find again and… they reach for their phone, completely tuning you out. You just know they’re not really listening.

That’s exactly how I felt about my emails.

Specifically, my welcome email, where I asked:

"What are your biggest challenges surrounding your well-being? Like, what are the things that feel like a zillion mosquitoes 🦟 constantly 🦟 buzzing 🦟 in 🦟 both 🦟 ears 🦟 after they’ve already sipped up the last of your energy?"

For months, I thought no one was answering. I even rewrote this email twice and after asking my brilliant writing friends for feedback...

but still nothing.

I was convinced I was the problem—or that nobody was listening.

Then the other day, I opened my spam folder looking for a random verification code, and there they were—your replies. Dozens of thoughtful, orphaned messages like this:

"Hi Simie, I am just getting my life together. 2024 has been a blur. I changed jobs, grade levels, apartments, and towns. It was just so overwhelming!"

"Hi Simie, Procrastinating for (unk)no(wn) reason! And being generally all over the place."

When I saw all those replies, I felt equal parts relieved and frustrated: relieved to know I wasn’t being ignored and frustrated at myself for never thinking to check my spam folder.

But the worst part?

I've only caught the replies that are less than 30 days old. Anything beyond that has already vanished into Gmail’s internet graveyard. (But strangely, some email replies managed to bypass this purgatory??? 🤷🏽‍♀️)

It turns out I’ve been getting what I wanted all along—I just wasn’t paying attention to the receiving part.

If we’re not paying attention, everything we’re asking for—opportunities, clarity, solutions—could be sitting in our mental spam folder, waiting for us to notice.

We get so wrapped up in overthinking, overcomplicating, or trying to control everything that we miss the simplest advice: "Check your spam folder."

Here’s the truth: the things we’re asking for can’t show up in our lives if we’re not ready—or too distracted—to welcome them in.
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Whether it’s clearing out mental clutter, loosening our death grip on control, or dealing with the painfully obvious, being ready to receive is just as important as knowing what to ask for.

So, lemme ask you:

What are you asking for right now?

And more importantly, how are you preparing yourself to actually receive it?
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What a metaphor lol.

✌🏾TTYL!✌🏾
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Simie
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P.S. Next week, the virtual doors to The Well-Being Program are about to re-open to all Clurb Members and subscribers on YouTube! A handful of Early Bird Well-Beings are already taking advantage of The Well-Being Hurb (the community lol) so I can't wait for you to hop in too.
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P.P.S. Due to the amount of emails coming in, I'm going to be starting a Q&A Sunday (starting this Sunday) where I answer the best questions that I get in my inbox so that the entire Clurb can benefit. So if you haven't gotten a reply from me in over 30 days, hit reply and ask again!