Hi Friend! Listen to my Monday night voice reading this email here~ Yesterday I had the honor of meeting with 12 super subs to chat about well-being. And of course, the calls were for them as much as they were for me. You know that phrase like, the advice we give is the advice we need the most? Well here’s 12 cases in point.
When it comes to building consistent habits, one of the things that worked really well for me was using something I did every. single. day. and then latching a newborn habit onto it. Wanna improve your balance and ankle stability? Assuming you brush your teeth everyday for around 2 min, try standing on one leg for a minute each. Wanna reduce your screen time? Walk your dog without looking at your phone. You get the point. 2. If you hate something you used to love… When I was going through a period of burnout I was a very unpleasant person. I was bitter at the fact that I was working my “dream job” but it was feeling like the furthest thing from the dream. I hated Monday’s more than warm tequila shots and I was beginning to hate helping people on a daily basis. RED FLAGGG. If you hate something you used to love for over 180 days straight, something really needs to change. Don’t waste another day complaining about it. 3. Exchange habits After I officially announced a quit date for work, I also committed to 90 days of going into “Monk Mode.” The two most powerful settings for this mode were: - No alcohol - No shopping for myself I wanted to make working on YouTube a daily habit so I eliminated the two habits that would interfere with that. In scientific theory, exchanging habits this could propel your progress faster than trying to just add a single habit. 4. STOP Sometimes we get in the zone and we literally forget about the basics. Eating, drinking, breathing, blinking, saying I love you, etc. If you forget to do any of the above or more on a regular basis, set a timer on your phone, rejuvenate on transition periods from task to task, or plan an “interruption” to take care of yourself. 5. Preventative maintenance If there’s something that gives me acute stress more than fast moving roaches, it’s a check engine light. If something inconvenient keeps reoccurring and is preventing you from doing the things you love, consider this a check engine light that needs some diagnosing. The emotional, physical, and often financial impacts of ignoring patterns and signals can be tragic. 6. The whole package I’ll admit, I have no idea what it’s like dating these days but I’d like to think that being upfront about who you really are is often more beneficial to both parties if there’s a long term interest. Whether it was a school application, a job application, a long term commitment like getting married, being honest about my story never did me dirty. And if I was ever rejected for being authentic or professionally honest, this was a GOOD thing for everyone involved. 7. Sometimes we’re just right Have you ever changed outfits multiple times just to end up right back into the first one you picked? Sometimes we worry so hard about doing things right that we end up spending a ton of time and energy going in circles only to end up run the first outfit we picked … and sometimes what we really needed was just more time to settle into our decision for something to feel right the first time around. 8. Pinch me under the table When I’m overly excited about something and let passion overtake my mouth, I end up talking way too freaking much. To the point where I’m likely repeating myself and overwhelming whoever I’m talking to. I’ve even asked Abbey to pinch me under the table whenever I do this with other people. To reduce the chances of this happening, ask the other person you’re talking to a question, and actually listen to their answer. 9. Sometimes it’s WHO “I don’t know the answer to that right now but I can find someone who does!” - my script when I had no idea what I was doing in the clinic. But honestly, some of the help I’ve been the most proud of giving was just pointing people in the right direction. If you don’t know something, you likely know someone who does! 10. Flight attendants have been saying this forever For airplane safety briefs, they advise to put your oxygen mask on first before assisting others. It may seem kinda backwards when you’re sitting next to a helpless child… but this is probably the clearest example of the importance of equipping yourself to help others. Another hard lesson I learned via burnout that I’ve been reminded of. 11. Recognize how far you’ve come “I’ll be happy when - ” "I’ll start when - ” “Once I have this - ” You already have everything you need - your skills, your experience, your past. Even if the multiverse was real, only you have lived the life you have. You have so much to offer to someone who has even a remotely similar journey to you. Leverage your one of a kind journey to help you get into spaces and opportunities you want to have more of (and to help others!). 12. The gut brain connection I can comfortably say that 95% of the time I trusted my gut to make a huge life decision - and I never regretted it. We can’t deny how we feel when we truly want something or when something is just “off”, regardless of opinions, reassurance, or objective evidence we’re given. Science is showing a lot of evidence that there’s a strong connection between the gut and the brain - so in a sense, trusting your gut is completely logical. Also the other 5% error was probably me trying to make decisions on an empty stomach. Journal Prompts:
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